I Got My Dream Job

When I was in elementary school, I wanted to be a marine biologist (what was I thinking? I’m not good at science). As I got a little older, I thought it would be cool to be a journalist in a big city, which morphed into just wanting to write.

By my transition from high school to college, I wanted to be wife and later a mom. I went through college, and eventually earned my Bachelor in English, but I didn’t feel like I fit anywhere; I was restless and thought what I was doing was pointless (deep down knowing it really wasn’t). There was never an academic niche I felt like I really fit in and had a passion for. I knew I could write, but I never thought I was getting anywhere with it. So I hoped and prayed I could have the “job” that I wanted. The one I didn’t always like admitting to people. The one I got funny looks for talking about.

I wanted to work from home. By that I mean be a homemaker and write in between, but it’s hard to do that if you’re a family of one, providing for yourself. So I continued school and my on-campus job, patiently waiting to see what opportunities would be opened to me. God has answered my prayers beautifully. He’s opened up doors for me that let me write, be what my husband needs, what my church needs, what my friends need, and what I need.

Two years ago I found a man that I fell in love with (actually, he found me). Here are our first photos together. ūüôā

Thankfully, his job allows me to stay home and be his helper. To most people it’s an old-fashioned, unconventional job. ¬†My husband goes to work Monday-Thursday, and I get to keep up our apartment, cook our dinners (or try to – still working on that one), and make time to help others when they need it. I get to be and feel useful.

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My husband is a forester. I have to share this precious picture of him before work Monday morning. I got to go with him part of the way to work because his work truck was in the shop.

God has allowed our relationship to grow in a beautiful way. It’s a way in which our lives aren’t rushed, and we can spend time growing together in Him. There’s not a better feeling than knowing I’m doing a job that God intended me to do (Genesis 2:18). I’m proud to have a job that can further His kingdom, one in which I get to respect, love, submit to, and work with my husband. Because I married such a loving man, it’s easy for me to submit to him. He doesn’t abuse his headship or leave me out of decisions. We’re equals in our relationship – equals with different and important jobs, and we both recognize this. We both recognize that we’re useful to each other equally. I’m thrilled to see this part of God’s plan working in my life.

Apart from my home life, I still get to write. I get to use my gift to share my life with others in an effort to encourage and inspire. I no longer have to squeeze this kind of writing into my schedule like I did in college, feeling guilty that I never had time in between classes and homework. Writing is something I get to make time for during my day, and it’s something I can do while still carrying out my ¬†stay-at-home wife responsibilities.

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Wedding photo courtesy of Elles Photography

I’m not a mom yet, but one day I hope to be, and like my marriage relationship, I hope to be a mom who glorifies God. Because it’s all going to be part of my exciting, God-given, life-fulfilling job. I know it takes patience, and my job will always come with its own challenges, but I also know that I can have joy through those challenges with God in my life and Christ in my heart.

Romans 8:28

And we know that all things work together for good for those that love God, for those who are the called according to His purpose.


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My Blogging Space

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You guessed it. That’s my coffee table.

As you’ve probably figured out, I like simple, organized spaces. I especially try to keep my blogging space neat because clutter messes with my creativity and concentration. Usually I’ll have a snack and a drink sitting on the table, as well.

What I have sitting on the table today, though, is my laptop, a stack of coasters, and the books I’m loving right now. The book underneath is a Proverbs Journible – a book used to copy down scripture on the right side and take notes on the left (more about that at a later date)! On top, I have a book I started a few days ago called¬†Practicing Hospitality: The Joy of Serving Others¬†by Pat Ennis and Lisa Tatlock.¬†Both of my copies¬†came from a store in my hometown, CEI Bookstore. It’s a great Christian bookstore that has an abundance of great literature, Bibles, and gift items; they’ll even order for you what they don’t have. You can probably find it online or at another bookstore, as well.

I’m really enjoying both of these.¬†Practicing Hospitality¬†is a wonderfully written book that details the reasons God expects Christians to offer hospitality to strangers and friends. I just got to Chapter 2, so once I finish it up, I may tell you how I liked it!

You may be wondering why I blog at my coffee table instead of a desk. As I’ve mentioned before I live in an apartment. There’s only room for one desk here, which is my husband’s that he uses for work. I could use his desktop computer, but I prefer my familiar keyboard that brought me through the end of college. It’s a cozy set up, and I can watch a tv show or movie while I write. It gives me some flexibility. Sometimes it motivates me even more because sitting in a chair at a desk while writing has always made me uncomfortable. One day I may upgrade, and get a nice, comfortable chair, but for now I’m thankful for what I have. It’s fun seeing where people’s creativity sparks. Mine is a simple space, but I like it that way!

How I Make Mornings Easier

There’s almost nothing on this earth I love more than a put-together home. A put-together home leads to a more organized life. I’m a routine person, but I am¬†not¬†a morning person. There’s not a whole lot I’ve been able to do to fix this quite yet, but I have found a couple of things that make it a little easier.

When I was in college, I was used to waking up early for class, and even enjoyed getting up before dawn to go to on-campus yoga classes and run with friends in the Campus Rec,¬†so my built-in alarm clock woke me up by 9 even on Saturdays. Well… I have no more classes, and being a stay-at-home wife makes it way too easy to sleep in until 11 or 12 on the weekdays. (Oh how I wish I could get myself back into that routine when I would get up and practice yoga into sunrise – there’s something so energizing about that). So¬†I’ve been trying to set my alarm for at least 8 am, usually 9, for the past week or so to make sure I don’t oversleep. This way I feel refreshed enough to get things done during the day and I haven’t been lazy when I could be getting things done, and 9 is a good time for me since we don’t go to bed quite as early as we would like to. Actually, your body is healthier if you get roughly the same amount of sleep every night, and you get better sleep, or so I read somewhere….

I skip the coffee or can of coke (not actually Coca-cola for all those non-southerners out there) to wake me up – caffeine usually has negative effects on me, so I try to keep it to a minimum, especially when I’m trying to refresh myself for a new day. It just doesn’t make sense to start the day negatively. It feels better to slowly let my body wake itself up instead of jump-starting it with a jolt of unnecessary energy.

So, after I wake up I go ahead and take a shower and get ready for the day. I mean full-outfit, fixed-hair, put-on-makeup kind of ready, even if I don’t have anywhere to go. There are occasional stay-in-my-pajamas days, but I’ve found that I’m much more productive when I look like I’m ready to be productive, so I’ve cut those to a minimum. Granted, when John Mark and I first got married, I was still in my pajamas with unwashed hair by the time he got home. I’m still a work in progress in this area. Now I usually wash, blow-dry, and straighten my hair (or put it up in a bun) and put on a simple layer of makeup – I haven’t been doing the full face look with eyeliner and layers of eye shadow as much anymore because it just takes up too much time. I finish up by brushing my teeth.

Once I’m done getting myself ready, I get the bedroom ready.¬†I always, always make the bed – sometimes I do this before I get ready, but most of the time I can do it much more cheerfully after I’ve woken up a little more. My only exception to this rule is Sundays, when I usually take a nap in between morning and evening worship services, and because we’re usually rushing around trying to get ready. Making the bed just makes the room look put together and makes me feel like there’s less to do cleaning-wise. Thanks to my mom for teaching me this nifty trick. ūüėČ I only really adopted it a few months ago, and it’s been a game-changer.

While doing these things haven’t magically changed me into a morning person, they have helped alleviate the grumpiness I have when I wake up, especially with that new 9am wake-up call. It’s my morning organizational therapy. I firmly believe in that, by the way; it’s kind of my thing. Maybe this can give you ideas or spark your morning creativity when if you’re not a morning person either. If you’re already there, what do you do? I’d love to know!

3 Things I’m Learning Through Marriage

As a lot of you know, I got married almost 3 months ago. It’s been the best almost 3 months of my life so far, but like everything else, it definitely comes¬†with those famous life lessons. Both my husband I learn something new about each other every day.

1) Patience is everything.¬†John Mark and I love each other very much, but being with another person 98% of the time does require patience. We pray for patience in everything¬†every day (and thankfully¬†he consistently reminds me to be aware of tests of my patience every day). Impatience sneaks up on you. It hides in your bad moods and then right when you need the most patience, it shows itself. We live in a very small apartment, which is actually a blessing. We’re always bumping into each other in our tiny kitchen or both trying to get ready in one room to go to worship services. If you know me, you also know tiny places are NOT my favorite places. Even though I’m a tiny person, I like to be able to have plenty of moving and breathing room (all very neatly organized), so this is probably this biggest patience-tester. Too add to it, I like constant communication; he just likes being in the same room. We organize things in very different ways; we like very different foods.¬†Now, don’t get me wrong. None of these are bad things! And they’re completely expected when people decide to get married. We literally signed ourselves up for it. ūüėČ But compromises have to be made and patience with the help of our God is required.

2)¬†Never,¬†ever¬†let yourself stay in a bad mood.¬†You know how being around that person at school or work or wherever who’s always grumpy can automatically grate at your nerves, leading to your very own bad mood? Marriage is exactly the same! No matter what’s bothering you, you can’t let it ruin your attitude or your day because it will rub off on your spouse (or at least end up hurting their feelings) and nobody wants to two frustrated people in one place. That doesn’t make for a healthy home life. I like to tell people, “I have a lot of feelings.” I’m easily unsettled, frustrated, and annoyed – but I’m also easily amused, excited, and made happy! At any rate, this one is something I really have to work at if I don’t want to make his day miserable, as well. I believe that this can show him that I appreciate him and all of the hard work he does for our little family. Be considerate by being happy.

3) Communication cures most problems.¬†We don’t argue very often – rarely, even. But if we ever do, it’s only because we have failed to communicate in some area. This happens in every type of relationship. Imagine if we all communicated perfectly with each other – wouldn’t life be at least half of a piece of cake? I think so! John Mark and I are open books, which is something I’ve always loved about our relationship. Talking about¬†everything is extremely helpful. Talk about your fears, loves, hates, excitements, problems, or just about what happened during the day! So far I’ve been a stay-at-home wife (looking to be a work-at-home wife in the near future), so I don’t usually have much going on during my day except household chores, grocery shopping, getting dinner ready, and trying to get everything organized so our home is as neat and frustration-free as possible. I’m thankful that this is something I can do because I get to create a happy environment thats ready whenever he arrives home from work each day. I try to stay positive and present myself with a good attitude when he gets home – because, hey, this is a form of communication, as well! I also make a point to ask him how is day went every day as he does the same. Even just a smile can cheer the other up. To me, it’s the little things.

I know I have¬†so¬†many more lessons to learn as the years go by and I, by no means, know it all, but these are some of the most valuable ones I’ve already been learning in the first 2.5 months of marriage. I think these are just basic, everyday relationship skills that everyone needs to remember, but I’ve found they’re even more helpful within the marriage relationship – which is absolutely beautiful!

So, what about you? Any married people out there have more tips or realizations? Talk to me in the comment box below! ūüôā

Photo courtesy of Elles Photography: ellesphoto.net

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